HNY from RtB IV

1 January, 2012
Rat Fink

And here we go!

I’ve said in years past — most recently, last year — that I’m not too good at keeping “resolutions,” so I rarely make any. Actually, I did set one specific goal last year: to be kinder to myself. In many ways, I achieved it; others, not. Well I’ve had a long time to think about it (365 days, to be exact), and I have decided to mete out some detailed plans for 2012. I’m fixin’ to free the lock on the Year of the Fink.

Yes, fiends, 2012 is going to be about me. But no worries; it’s really about how I’m going to relate to the world around me, and that includes everyone and everything else in my life. I’ve already started the work to become physically healthier, which directly affects the interaction with my two grandsons and other family, and that is ongoing. (Don’t want to say too much more about it, because like a fool, I still believe in jinxing things.) Rather, these promises to myself are designed to improve my mind, daily attitude, constitution, general outlook on life and my relationships, to wit:

I Resolve To…

  • assert myself more, both in deed and word. (I know — my students would say, “MORE? What the…?” HA)
  • be available to my family more.
  • improve or abandon unhealthy relationships.
  • be OK with people not knowing the whole story. I don’t know why, but this has always been a huge deal to me. I care too much about what others think, especially when they form opinions about me based on one-sided information, or even out-and-out lies. Truth is, people are going to say and think what they’re going to say and think, and there’s nothing I can do about it, so I will sweep them away.
  • save more money for retirement.
  • go home when it’s time to go home. The work piling up can wait.
  • be more honest with friends and family about my inner feelings.
  • walk the dog more often. (Actually, I need to teach him how to do THIS.)
  • forgive more, and ask for forgiveness more.
  • Let. It. Go. It’ll never be perfect, so stop agonizing over it.
So that’s it. These are doable. Not only that, they’re healthy, positive and encouraging changes that won’t cost me a dime (except the retirement one). And as is my wont, I now ask you: What are you looking to do differently this year? What do you want to enjoy more? Worry about less? Accomplish? Let’s have it.
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Ah, clarity:  first item on the universal list of Things That Do Not Suck. HNY!

8 Comments

  1. My one-word mantra for 2012 is: Moderation. You’ll know what I mean. I refuse to give up ANYTHING and hope to enjoy all things enjoyable in moderation.

    XOXOXO *smewch*

  2. I see great things for you this New Year, luv! Some will be uphill, others down and easy, but you’ll make it! Just hold tight to the goodness in you and the love you have for others. God will guide you the rest of the way, Bird-O-Mine. I love you so much!!

    • Thank you, sis! I love you too. We both have reasons to celebrate this new year! I hope by this time, 365 days (erm, 366 days) hence, we’ll be celebrating the most HEALTHY year either of us has ever experienced. That’s our goal anyway, right? Yay! <3

  3. You must have been reading my mind – several things on your list are also on mine!! You GO gurl!!!

    And I love the treadmill! When I was first doing all my work & study on the whole “Dog Whisperer”/”Be the Leader of the Pack” to get Annie to be less of a PITA, that was one of the things that Cesar Milan had on his TV shows a LOT! Well, not necessarily the one made esp. for dogs. He just had a regular people treadmill & used it to make sure that larger dogs got lots of exercise. You would be amazed at how much better behaved dogs are when they don’t have tons of pent-up energy!!

    HEY – I got an extra vacation day today! I think I’ll go shopping!! :-) ENJOY your day/week/month!

    xoxoxox
    B

    • Hey, glad you got a surprise day off! From what I saw on Facebook yesterday, it was a tossup, sorta. Bunch of folks had the day off, bunch had to go in to work/school, which was a bummer.

      And I want a Jog-a-Dog! I’ve seen videos of it in action — looks amazing, and it’s exactly what Rousseau needs in the cold weather (he doesn’t get wild, but rather bored and lethargic — I worry about him).

      Have a great first week of 2012, doll!

  4. I heard a great line in a movie the other night:

    “Everybody wants the same thing…we all just want someone to listen.”

    It occurred to me that this is incredibly true. So…this year…I’m going to try to listen…to really listen to people. That means that I’m not going to rush away because what I have to do is more important. It means that I’m not going to automatically connect the other person’s concerns and worries to MY life. It means I’m going to LISTEN…really listen. I would venture to say that we don’t do it very well, and that includes sometimes with the people we care the most about.

    Now let’s just see how long I can actually do it!

    • Very true, MM. Especially the part about “connect[ing] the other person’s concerns and worries to MY life.” We all need to be a little less self-absorbed. Good one!

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